MEN: THIS IS WHAT LADIES NOTICE FIRST IN A MAN

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First impression is the most important especially when meeting a new person. Gentlemen. Let’s talk about first impressions. Specifically the kind you make on ladies when they first meet you. Most important thing to remember is that Women size you up as soon as you say “hello.  And you know what they say about first impressions, you only get to make one. So make yours count. Below are visual and audio cues a woman immediately notices and how you can get it right.

1. YOUR SHOES: WHY IT MATTERS : If eyes are the window to the soul, then shoes are the window to your style. Wear the wrong ones, and you will send a less than ideal message. If they look flimsy, she will suspect you are a cheap. If they are dirty and worn down, she will think you do not care about your appearance (and will wonder what else you do not care about).

HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: Consider shoes an investment. Spend what you can on a few good pairs. Get shoes in both black and brown, and a sports shoes or moccasin for more casual outfits. And be sure your shoes are outfit appropriate. That means no sneakers or sandals with a suit.
2. THE WAY YOU SAY HELLOW: WHY IT MATTERS:Why do you think it is so nerve-wracking when contestants first get out of the limo on The Bachelor?  And guys, do not pretend you have not watched this addictive reality series at least once. It is because they only get a few words and gestures to make a good first impression. A greeting is the first opportunity to present yourself the way you want to be seen. Your handshake, smile and “hello” all contribute.
HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: Be confident, but friendly. Do not look past the lady, or up and down her frame before you reach our face. Of course, if you can barely make eye contact from nerves, that is not very appealing either. Look her in the eye, smile warmly, and repeat hername (to help you remember it). And never underestimate the power of a firm handshake
3. YOUR HANDS: WHY IT MATTERS: Since we are already talking about handshakes, let us discuss the state of your skin. I know that “Moisturize” probably is not high on your list of daily “To Do list.” But rough hands are not something ladies want to put up with. No one wants to touch scaly skin. Even if you think moisturizing is not “manly,” it is in your best interest to keep your skin smooth.
HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: Keep a hand cream or vaseline near you and use it when you are brainstorming your fantasy football lineup or trying to decide what to eat for lunch.
4. YOUR LOO: WHY IT MATTERS: There are, of course, big fashion deal breakers guys (hopefully) know not to make. Showing up to a date in an “I’m with Stupid” t-shirt, for instance. Or walking into a business meeting wearing your favorite soccer team jacket.
But usually, it is smaller things that can trip you up with a first impression. A sloppy, untucked shirt, Trouser that clearly has not been pressed or muddy, grass-stained shoes.
HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: Do a full-mirror scan before you leave your house. Do you look put together? Is your hair combed? Your shoelaces tied? Does your belt match your shoes? A quick once-over will save you from little mistakes in a first impression.
5. YOUR WATCH: WHY IT MATTERS: Women do not expect every man to flex a Rolex, but they do expect you to wear a man’s – not a kid’s – watch. No Mickey Mouse faces. No calculator watches. And nothing made of rubber if you are not running a marathon.
HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: How to get it right: If its time to upgrade your wrist wear, do a reconnaissance mission at the shop counter to see what strikes your fancy. You can’t go wrong with a metal bracelet with a dark face, or a simple-yet-classic leather band with white face. Nothing showy.
6. YOUR GRAMMAR: WHY IT MATTERS: Even in the first exchange of “Hello’s” and “Hi my name is” pleasantries, ladies are making judgments. They notice if you’re using big words or not, if you say “umm,” call them “chick” or “babe,” and if your vocabulary is riddled with curses.
HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: Read more books? Ladies want to feel confident that you can hold up your end of a conversation if they introduce you to their friends or family without fear of you embarrassing them.
7. YOUR HAIR: WHY IT MATTERS: The way you wear your hair says a lot about you. A comb over trying to cover up a bald patch – you’ll seem insecure. Greasy locks that look like they have not been washed in days – a total turn-off.
HOW TO GET IT RIGHT: Women have different opinions on the “right” length of hair, but that is subjective. What’s more important is how it’s styled. Or really, if it’s styled at all. If you wear your hair long, make sure it’s in good shape when you walk out the door. If you’re going bald, just shave it off and rock a bare scalp without shame.