Awali, punguzo hilo lilitolewa kwa mikoa ya Lindi na Mtwara, ambako bomba la kusafirisha gesi kwenda Dar es Salaam limeanzia, lakini sasa gharama hizo zitakuwa kwa vijiji vyote nchi nzima.
Akizungumza jijini Dar es Salaam jana, Waziri wa Nishati na Madini, Profesa Sospeter Muhongo alisema gharama hizo zitahusu miradi inayosimamiwa na Wakala wa Umeme Vijijini (REA) katika kipindi ambacho makandarasi watakuwa wakiendelea na awamu ya pili ya miradi inayotarajiwa kuanza Machi mwaka huu.
Muhongo alisema kuwa katika awamu ya kwanza ya miradi iliyomalizika Desemba mwaka jana, wanavijiji walilipa gharama kubwa, hivyo Serikali imeamua kupunguza malipo hayo, ili huduma hiyo ya nishati iwafikie watu wengi zaidi.
Hata hivyo, ofa hiyo itadumu kwa mwaka mmoja na miezi mitano pekee, kwani awamu ya pili ya miradi hiyo inatarajiwa kuanza Machi, 2014 na kumalizika Juni, 2015.
“Gharama hizo ni kwa kipindi ambacho makandarasi watakuwa kazini tu. Makandarasi msiwakatalie wanavijiji kuwafungia umeme,” alisema Muhongo.
Waziri Muhongo aliwanyooshea kidole makandarasi wa miradi ya umeme vijijini akisema kuwa wanalalamikiwa kwa kuomba rushwa kwa wanavijiji ili wawaunganishie umeme kwenye nyumba zao.
“Kule Bunda kuna mwanakijiji alimtaja mfanyakazi wa kampuni inayoomba rushwa… kampuni hiyo imeshapewa onyo, ninapendekeza isipewe tena kazi,” alisema Muhongo.
Pia alilitaka Shirika la Ugavi wa Umeme nchini (Tanesco) na REA kutokutumia gharama kubwa kulipa fidia za majengo au mashamba ya wanavijiji kwa kuwa historia inaonyesha kuwa zoezi hilo huambatana na rushwa.
“Tuna historia mbaya linapokuja suala la fidia, limejaa rushwa tupu,” alisema.
Human beings are said to be social by nature. We need someone or
the other in our lives to share our real life experiences and emotions.
While most people feel the need of a good partner to make the most of
their social life, there are others who prefer to lead a solo life. That
being said, being single does not imply that a person is all alone or
completely lonely in life. It comes as no surprise to learn that there
are herds of individuals out there who have stayed single for several
years without being unhappy at all. Being single would at times mean
enjoying your own company. Some people have simply mastered the art of
living single without any hiccups in life. Lets have a look at some of
the benefits of being single.
1. FREEDOM: It will not be an understatement to claim that solo life and freedom goes hand in hand. Extreme freedom is one of the benefits that an individual can enjoy by leading a single life. One can take their own decisions, go anywhere without seeking approval and live life as one wants. The fact that you are not answerable to anyone is a merit in itself. In a way, you will be the master of your own life. Men do not have to worry about missing sports event or any other favorite shows for the sake of their partner, who has other interests. Women can also enjoy similar benefits, where they will not have to seek permission from their partner for every activity they intend to do.
2. MORE TIME FOR FRIENDS: More than often, those involved in a relationship find it extremely difficult to find time for their old pals. On the other hand, if you are single, you will find ample time for your old pals. One can venture outside for picnic and other activities without worrying about leaving his/her partner behind.
3. BETTER CONTROL OVER FINANCES: Any relationship out there requires time, effort and money to prosper. In the world of today, money is one of the key factors that can determine how good two individuals will fare in a relationship. Being single enables one to have greater control over their finances. There is no need to spend money on expensive gifts and birthday presents. The overall cost of living is very less leading a solo life as compared to living with a partner.
4. BETTER CONTROL OVER TIME: In this time pressed world, we often complain about lack of time. More than often, long term and short term plans take a hit due to lack of time, especially for those who are involved in a relationship. Usually, most people have to encounter loads of hardship to find quality time for themselves and their family members. However, those who are single do not generally face this problem. They find time for their hobbies, friends and other pleasurable activities. In other words, it enables one to broaden their horizons of life in a positive manner.
5. MORE FREEDOM TO TAKE RISKS: Those who are single find more room to take risks in their lives, which is often difficult if you are involved in a relationship. Commitment towards your partner often forces you to take baby steps in various walks of life. In some cases, several fruitful opportunities take a hit due to the inability of one to take risky plunge in different aspects of life.
6. LESS STRESS: Today, it will not be an understatement to claim that relationship and stress goes hand in hand to a great extent. Negative relationship can cause excessive mental and physical stress. There are many personality traits and thought differences that could collide and result into quarrels when two individuals choose to live together. When single, an individual is immune from the stress that is usually involved in a committed
relationship
- See more at: http://www.jksoulmate.com/readstory.php?page=408#sthash.VwLTrX1I.dpuf1. FREEDOM: It will not be an understatement to claim that solo life and freedom goes hand in hand. Extreme freedom is one of the benefits that an individual can enjoy by leading a single life. One can take their own decisions, go anywhere without seeking approval and live life as one wants. The fact that you are not answerable to anyone is a merit in itself. In a way, you will be the master of your own life. Men do not have to worry about missing sports event or any other favorite shows for the sake of their partner, who has other interests. Women can also enjoy similar benefits, where they will not have to seek permission from their partner for every activity they intend to do.
2. MORE TIME FOR FRIENDS: More than often, those involved in a relationship find it extremely difficult to find time for their old pals. On the other hand, if you are single, you will find ample time for your old pals. One can venture outside for picnic and other activities without worrying about leaving his/her partner behind.
3. BETTER CONTROL OVER FINANCES: Any relationship out there requires time, effort and money to prosper. In the world of today, money is one of the key factors that can determine how good two individuals will fare in a relationship. Being single enables one to have greater control over their finances. There is no need to spend money on expensive gifts and birthday presents. The overall cost of living is very less leading a solo life as compared to living with a partner.
4. BETTER CONTROL OVER TIME: In this time pressed world, we often complain about lack of time. More than often, long term and short term plans take a hit due to lack of time, especially for those who are involved in a relationship. Usually, most people have to encounter loads of hardship to find quality time for themselves and their family members. However, those who are single do not generally face this problem. They find time for their hobbies, friends and other pleasurable activities. In other words, it enables one to broaden their horizons of life in a positive manner.
5. MORE FREEDOM TO TAKE RISKS: Those who are single find more room to take risks in their lives, which is often difficult if you are involved in a relationship. Commitment towards your partner often forces you to take baby steps in various walks of life. In some cases, several fruitful opportunities take a hit due to the inability of one to take risky plunge in different aspects of life.
6. LESS STRESS: Today, it will not be an understatement to claim that relationship and stress goes hand in hand to a great extent. Negative relationship can cause excessive mental and physical stress. There are many personality traits and thought differences that could collide and result into quarrels when two individuals choose to live together. When single, an individual is immune from the stress that is usually involved in a committed
relationship
Human beings are said to be social by nature. We need someone or
the other in our lives to share our real life experiences and emotions.
While most people feel the need of a good partner to make the most of
their social life, there are others who prefer to lead a solo life. That
being said, being single does not imply that a person is all alone or
completely lonely in life. It comes as no surprise to learn that there
are herds of individuals out there who have stayed single for several
years without being unhappy at all. Being single would at times mean
enjoying your own company. Some people have simply mastered the art of
living single without any hiccups in life. Lets have a look at some of
the benefits of being single.
1. FREEDOM: It will not be an understatement to claim that solo life and freedom goes hand in hand. Extreme freedom is one of the benefits that an individual can enjoy by leading a single life. One can take their own decisions, go anywhere without seeking approval and live life as one wants. The fact that you are not answerable to anyone is a merit in itself. In a way, you will be the master of your own life. Men do not have to worry about missing sports event or any other favorite shows for the sake of their partner, who has other interests. Women can also enjoy similar benefits, where they will not have to seek permission from their partner for every activity they intend to do.
2. MORE TIME FOR FRIENDS: More than often, those involved in a relationship find it extremely difficult to find time for their old pals. On the other hand, if you are single, you will find ample time for your old pals. One can venture outside for picnic and other activities without worrying about leaving his/her partner behind.
3. BETTER CONTROL OVER FINANCES: Any relationship out there requires time, effort and money to prosper. In the world of today, money is one of the key factors that can determine how good two individuals will fare in a relationship. Being single enables one to have greater control over their finances. There is no need to spend money on expensive gifts and birthday presents. The overall cost of living is very less leading a solo life as compared to living with a partner.
4. BETTER CONTROL OVER TIME: In this time pressed world, we often complain about lack of time. More than often, long term and short term plans take a hit due to lack of time, especially for those who are involved in a relationship. Usually, most people have to encounter loads of hardship to find quality time for themselves and their family members. However, those who are single do not generally face this problem. They find time for their hobbies, friends and other pleasurable activities. In other words, it enables one to broaden their horizons of life in a positive manner.
5. MORE FREEDOM TO TAKE RISKS: Those who are single find more room to take risks in their lives, which is often difficult if you are involved in a relationship. Commitment towards your partner often forces you to take baby steps in various walks of life. In some cases, several fruitful opportunities take a hit due to the inability of one to take risky plunge in different aspects of life.
6. LESS STRESS: Today, it will not be an understatement to claim that relationship and stress goes hand in hand to a great extent. Negative relationship can cause excessive mental and physical stress. There are many personality traits and thought differences that could collide and result into quarrels when two individuals choose to live together. When single, an individual is immune from the stress that is usually involved in a committed
relationship
- See more at: http://www.jksoulmate.com/readstory.php?page=408#sthash.VwLTrX1I.dpuf1. FREEDOM: It will not be an understatement to claim that solo life and freedom goes hand in hand. Extreme freedom is one of the benefits that an individual can enjoy by leading a single life. One can take their own decisions, go anywhere without seeking approval and live life as one wants. The fact that you are not answerable to anyone is a merit in itself. In a way, you will be the master of your own life. Men do not have to worry about missing sports event or any other favorite shows for the sake of their partner, who has other interests. Women can also enjoy similar benefits, where they will not have to seek permission from their partner for every activity they intend to do.
2. MORE TIME FOR FRIENDS: More than often, those involved in a relationship find it extremely difficult to find time for their old pals. On the other hand, if you are single, you will find ample time for your old pals. One can venture outside for picnic and other activities without worrying about leaving his/her partner behind.
3. BETTER CONTROL OVER FINANCES: Any relationship out there requires time, effort and money to prosper. In the world of today, money is one of the key factors that can determine how good two individuals will fare in a relationship. Being single enables one to have greater control over their finances. There is no need to spend money on expensive gifts and birthday presents. The overall cost of living is very less leading a solo life as compared to living with a partner.
4. BETTER CONTROL OVER TIME: In this time pressed world, we often complain about lack of time. More than often, long term and short term plans take a hit due to lack of time, especially for those who are involved in a relationship. Usually, most people have to encounter loads of hardship to find quality time for themselves and their family members. However, those who are single do not generally face this problem. They find time for their hobbies, friends and other pleasurable activities. In other words, it enables one to broaden their horizons of life in a positive manner.
5. MORE FREEDOM TO TAKE RISKS: Those who are single find more room to take risks in their lives, which is often difficult if you are involved in a relationship. Commitment towards your partner often forces you to take baby steps in various walks of life. In some cases, several fruitful opportunities take a hit due to the inability of one to take risky plunge in different aspects of life.
6. LESS STRESS: Today, it will not be an understatement to claim that relationship and stress goes hand in hand to a great extent. Negative relationship can cause excessive mental and physical stress. There are many personality traits and thought differences that could collide and result into quarrels when two individuals choose to live together. When single, an individual is immune from the stress that is usually involved in a committed
relationship
Men are unfortunately a product of their hormones and their
programming. This is true of both genders, but in the case of men
unfortunately it results in the tendency for a 'wondering eye'. This is
the result of both too much testosterone (the hormone that drives our
libido) as well as that evolutionary imperative for them to spread their
seed. This means that in many ways it is not really the fault of a man
and thankfully as mankind has since developed a conscience it does not
necessarily mean that he is going to run off and cheat on you with the
first lady who walks past. However he most likely will look, and
possibly even smirk, as her nice butt swaggers past and although this is
relatively harmless it is still less than pleasant and not really
ideal. Very few men really have eyes for only one woman and this is not a
terrible thing, but certainly a shame.
But there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make matters worse
- See more at: http://www.jksoulmate.com/readstory.php?page=403#sthash.LfX8zqR6.dpufBut there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make matters worse
Men are unfortunately a product of their hormones and their
programming. This is true of both genders, but in the case of men
unfortunately it results in the tendency for a 'wondering eye'. This is
the result of both too much testosterone (the hormone that drives our
libido) as well as that evolutionary imperative for them to spread their
seed. This means that in many ways it is not really the fault of a man
and thankfully as mankind has since developed a conscience it does not
necessarily mean that he is going to run off and cheat on you with the
first lady who walks past. However he most likely will look, and
possibly even smirk, as her nice butt swaggers past and although this is
relatively harmless it is still less than pleasant and not really
ideal. Very few men really have eyes for only one woman and this is not a
terrible thing, but certainly a shame.
But there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make matters worse
- See more at: http://www.jksoulmate.com/readstory.php?page=403#sthash.LfX8zqR6.dpufBut there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make matters worse
Men are unfortunately a product of their hormones and their
programming. This is true of both genders, but in the case of men
unfortunately it results in the tendency for a 'wondering eye'. This is
the result of both too much testosterone (the hormone that drives our
libido) as well as that evolutionary imperative for them to spread their
seed. This means that in many ways it is not really the fault of a man
and thankfully as mankind has since developed a conscience it does not
necessarily mean that he is going to run off and cheat on you with the
first lady who walks past. However he most likely will look, and
possibly even smirk, as her nice butt swaggers past and although this is
relatively harmless it is still less than pleasant and not really
ideal. Very few men really have eyes for only one woman and this is not a
terrible thing, but certainly a shame.
But there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make matters worse
- See more at: http://www.jksoulmate.com/readstory.php?page=403#sthash.LfX8zqR6.dpufBut there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make matters worse
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