Men are unfortunately a product of their hormones and their
programming. This is true of both genders, but in the case of men
unfortunately it results in the tendency for a 'wondering eye'. This is
the result of both too much testosterone (the hormone that drives our
libido) as well as that evolutionary imperative for them to spread their
seed. This means that in many ways it is not really the fault of a man
and thankfully as mankind has since developed a conscience it does not
necessarily mean that he is going to run off and cheat on you with the
first lady who walks past. However he most likely will look, and
possibly even smirk, as her nice butt swaggers past and although this is
relatively harmless it is still less than pleasant and not really
ideal. Very few men really have eyes for only one woman and this is not a
terrible thing, but certainly a shame.
But there are ways to get the attention of your man focused squarely back on you:
1. DRESS TO IMPRESS: First of all you can make sure that your guy looks
at you more by making sure you give him something to look at. So many
women are certain that they 'Do not need' to make themselves smart in
order to hold the attention of their man that they refuse to wear the
things that turn him on. At the same time it might come from simply too
much comfort and familiarity. You are with this guy every day so why
bother to do your makeup and wear your sexiest clothes all the time?
This is really shooting yourself in the foot unnecessarily though and
making him more likely to look elsewhere. Do not see it as selling out
or 'stooping to their level' but simply as reminding your guy what he is
already got and giving yourself an ego boost at the same time. This is
also just a nice thing to do for your guy. You probably like being
admired and he will appreciate it a lot if you dress to impress him. At
the same time you have an advantage over all the other girls because you
know what he likes. All of this will make sure that he keeps his eyes
and his mind set firmly on you.
2. SATISFY: At the same time although it can sound a little less than
romantic, you also need to make sure that your guy is not completely
starving for sex. If he is then he will have more testosterone and this
will make him more likely to look at the stimulus he sees going passed.
As such then, a good thing to do is to make sure that your guy is not
left for wanting. Do not let it feel like a chore. This should be fun
for both of you, and if your guy finds himself getting aroused at every
advert that features women or every time he sees someone in shoes he
likes then clearly there is something not quite right.
3. MIX IT UP: You also need to make sure you keep things fresh. Variety
is the spice of life and while he might be very happy with you this does
not mean he is not going to occasionally wonder what it would be like
with someone else. The solution? To help him to live out those fantasies
by giving him something to look forward to when he gets home. It will
help to keep things from getting stale.
4. CHANGE YOUR THINKING: The danger is that for many women a wandering
eye is a sin that needs to be punished and perhaps rightly so. But if
your idea of 'punishing' your man is to withhold then you have to
realize that you are just making things worse. At the same time many
women will be stubborn about things like dressing up or satisfying their
man when they are not in the mood because they do not want to turn
their sex life into a chore or into something one way. Indeed it should
not be this way, but you must not cross the line into which you start
dressing badly and turning down most of his advances because it will
mean that he is obviously going to be frustrated. See it as something
you can do for him that he will be eternally grateful for, and see it as
something that both of you should be enjoying together.
5. TALK: Of course if the problem persists then it might be that he has
difficulty controlling his urges and that 'spicing' things up and
dressing sexily is not going to be enough. If you find that it is
hurting you and you feel insecure as a result then you need to tell him
how you feel and ask him to stop. Most men will make a concerted effort
and though it might not mean he stops completely, it should at least
mean he is a little more subtle about it. Do mot make the mistake of not
saying anything and acting out in other ways as that will only make
matters worse.
TAKE CARE..MWAAAH.
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